Whilst a woman may envy the friend who receives lavish, expensive gifts off her partner the truth is, it is often the little gestures that give the most pleasure. The small day-to-day actions that demonstrate our husband loves us and is thinking of us are often the ones that really count in making us feel loved, secure and valued in our relationship.
Here are some little ways to show your wife you love her:
- Touch her gently as you walk past. Those almost unconscious gestures are indicative of a warm, close, intimate relationship. When a couple become distant from each other their need for personal space increases too. Standing close or automatically touching are actions that reveal a comfortable intimacy.
- Send a text for no particular reason; just texting a kiss or a ‘thinking of you’ are little ways to make her smile and feel remembered, loved and secure.
- Choose to spend time with her. It’s good for a couple to maintain some separate interests and friends, but show her that spending time with her is also important, fun and something that you are keen and enthusiastic about doing.
- Remind her when her favourite programme is due on, or tape it if it looks like she’s going to miss it.
- Run her a bath when she comes home from a tiring day.
- Remember to pick up a book, magazine or some music that she’s expressed an interest in.
- If you see an advert or a flyer for a talk or something that would appeal to her make a note of the details and pass them on.
- Suggest she has a meal or a night out with her friends. Pay for it or offer to drive.
- Be generous about complimenting her, especially when you are out in company. Show how proud you are of her and ensure she feels appreciated, special and loved.
- Make an effort to look clean, tidy and smart when you go out together. A man will often comment about the length of time his wife takes to get ready, and yet he is pleased to be seen with an attractive, well-groomed lady. Return the compliment, freshen up and dress smartly when you go out together. Making an effort is especially important when a couple have been together a while. It lets them know that they are not taken for granted.
- If she has her friends round for a girly evening go out and let them have some private time together.
- Take the children to the park for a couple of hours to give her some peace and quiet.
- Wash her car, tidy the garden, change the broken light bulb without being asked. These little gestures demonstrate an interest in being supportive both to her and the home.
- Cuddle her, hug her and be loving without it automatically having to lead to sex. Many women say that at times they are afraid to demonstrate affection to their husbands because it can lead to an automatic expectation of sex. Show that you can be affectionate and loving by being happy to cuddle and hug.
As we get to know someone well we become aware of the little things that will make a difference to them, that will enhance and improve their quality of life. These gestures often cost very little in monetary terms but make a big investment in the relationship. By being thoughtful in this way we show someone we love them.
Susan Leigh is a Counsellor and Hypnotherapist who works with stressed individuals to promote confidence and self belief, with couples in crisis to improve communications and understanding and with business clients to support the health and motivation levels of individuals and teams.
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